Mennell, StephenStephenMennell2019-11-082019-11-082018Sozialwissenschaftliche Literatur Rundschau0175-6559http://hdl.handle.net/10197/11188Interdisziplinäre Zentrum ‘Kindeheiten–Gesellschaften, University of Wuppertal, Germany, 23 January 2018There is nothing very controversial in the idea that learning to defer gratification is a central element in the socialisation of children. It could be called an individual civilising process, or just ‘growing up’. The argument of this paper is that the deferred gratification is also the central element in Norbert Elias’s theory of civilising processes as long-term social changes. If he had spoken more about deferred gratification and used the term ‘civilisation’ a bit less, some of the controversy about and misunderstanding of his theory might have been diminished. In Über den Prozess der Zivilisation he set out to demonstrate that the social standard of the capacity to defer gratifcation had over the generations become more demanding; the small child had further to travel in order to attain the standard required to qualify as adult behaviour and feeling.enCivilising processSocial changeNorbert EliasJournal Article7792992019-09-04https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/3.0/ie/